My Mothers Mess

They say we’re a reflection of our parents.

What does that mean? Does that cancel out the whole “Do as I say, and not as I do”? Because, a reflection is a mimicking movement, right?

What if we don’t know our parents? What if our parents are super nice, highly functional people? What if they’re not?

What if you suffer from addictions and your parents have never tried drugs, and are well rounded, hard working people with a healthy social life. What if your parents are a mess, and you manage to pull away and become well rounded and successful in what you do.

If you like, you can walk with me while I try and figure this out for myself. I’ve struggled for years with feelings of abandonment, anxiety, loneliness and low self worth. I’ve also always said that you have to be responsible for your feelings and accountable for your actions. Yet, eternally I blame my parents and my upbringing for my dysfunctional state of being.